Relational issues

Interconnectedness is a very human trait.  People are relational beings who tend to thrive in environments where they feel a sense of purpose and connection to others.  However sometimes relationships endure difficult times, which can threaten the stability of relational bonds. These “ruptures” in the relationship can be caused by a multitude of things, including lack of communication, variance in expectations, breach of trust, and compatibility issues.  Therapy is an essential component in getting a bird’s eye view of how various relationships (e.g. friends, co-workers, classmates, family members, romantic partners, etc.) affect your life. 

A “rupture” has occurred in my relationship … now what?

Theorist and famous psychologist Murray Bowen was quoted as saying “That which is created in a relationship can be fixed in a relationship”.  Bowen is arguing that “ruptures” created within a relationship can also present an opportunity for “repair”.  Therapy can help individuals and couples gain a clear picture of how their own intrinsic values interface with other people and each other.  Although therapy is not designed to dictate what relationships are worth pursuing, therapy can assist with evaluating how relationships impact your psychological, social, and emotional well-being.                   

What does a healthy relationship look like?  

You know that you are in a healthy relationship with someone because you feel good about yourself when you are around that person.  You should feel safe around the other person and feel that you can trust him/her.  In a healthy relationship, you should like to spend time with the other person, instead of feeling like you’re pressured into spending time with them.  Unhealthy relationships can make you feel sad, angry, scared, or worried.  Communication and empathy are key elements of maintaining healthy attachment and relational bonds with other people.  If all parties are willing to make an effort, healthy communication and an empathetic understanding can help mend relational problems and empower individuals, couples, and families to avoid relational pitfalls.